How Do You Talk To Your Loved Ones?

I admit I am sometimes a little too harsh with my loved ones. Many times I would say something and regret it almost instantly. Yes, I can be quite a jerk. For the last year, I’ve been working on this thing on a daily basis, where I would talk to my loved ones using a three-pronged approach.

#1: Appreciation

via James 3:9 (NIV):

With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God’s likeness.

I want our family to be filled with appreciation. And why appreciation and not gratitude, because you can be grateful for the food that is on the table. But it takes more to be able to appreciate what you are eating. In other words, one can be grateful for the food (or for that matter anything) but failed to appreciate it.

#2: Positive

via Proverbs 16:24 (KJB):

Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones.

It is easy to be positive when things are going great. However, when things are not going well, being positive can be a real challenge. That said, if you don’t practice being positive when times are good; do you think it is going to be easy when times are bad?

Let’s face it. There will be ups and downs in our life. So why let the negatives weigh us down? And why weigh our loved ones down with negativity? Be positive.

#3: Encouraging

via Proverbs 12:18 (NIV)

The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.

The difference between being positive and encouraging is this: you are positive about the outcome and you are encouraging the process. This is where I want to urge my wife and children on. I want to be their biggest fan, their biggest cheerleader, to keep them going and becoming better each day.

Do you APE

Take a few moments to reflect how you can be even more appreciative, positive, and encouraging to your loved ones. I’d admit I am still learning to be better at it every day.